I answered the question in this article on Medium.
The thriving group knows and acknowledges that struggle is guaranteed in life. Everything requires time and effort. The outcomes require energy and time to manifest. We know that nothing happens by itself. An action must be initiated in order to manifest outcomes.
The suffering group expect things to happen by themselves without concerted effort. They assume we have privilege so that things happen just as we want. Their brains operate in default mode. Randomness governs their life.
Please enjoy the story titled How To Orchestrate Your Life For Success And Satisfaction